Change comes with one small step…

Friday  October 21 2016

The truth of the above statement is undoubtedly a known experience for most if not all of us. Virtuous lifestyles and healthy living (whilst to some extent) are things we know instinctually because of what we call natural law, nevertheless growing in goodness and virtue is also a step by step process. Like the poet says

“Sow a thought, reap an act.
Sow an act, reap a habit.
Sow a habit, reap a character.
Sow a character, reap a destiny.”
So I was mindful of this maxim on reading the story of the Mayor and other civic leaders of the town of Twowoomba, Queensland Australia who have launched A City Free From Porn” campaign, which asked supporters to take a pledge that was handed out to all in attendance on business cards. The Pledge reads thus:
“I acknowledge that viewing pornography promotes exploitation of women and violence against women and it damages families,” I commit that I won’t view porn and I will help create a city free from porn.”
Commenting on this the Mayor, Paul Antonio said; “We must begin a journey with one step. I think what we’ve focused on today is the real value of proper relationships.”

Here is a link

Bravo to this Mayor and the citizens of this town for taking a massive countercultural step.

God willing this initiative will spread to other towns and communities and gain a gradual critical mass for change in attitudes towards pornography. A US campaign runs a slogan; “Porn is Lame.” Well use of it can certainly cripple people emotionally spiritually and morally as clearly evidenced now by the neuroscience and behavioural psychologists treating porn addicts. It leaves many people lame so to speak and especially those caught up in the industry. Pope Francis says the Church must be a field hospital for the spiritually wounded. So before this Year of Mercy ends in November if you or someone you know has been crippled by the use of porn never forget the unfailing promise of Christ to St. Faustina of His boundless mercy.
“When a soul sees and realizes the gravity of its sins, when the whole abyss of the misery into which it has immersed itself is displayed before its eyes, let it not despair, but with trust let it throw itself into the arms of my mercy, as a child into the arms of its beloved mercy. Tell these souls they have a right of priority to

My compassionate Heart, they have first access to My mercy. And tell them that no soul that has ever called on My mercy has ever been disappointed or brought to shame.”
Diary of Faustina (#1541)

Personal Note:

Last week I informed readers of my imminent change of employment. After almost 13 years working in Westminster diocese I am moving on next month to serve the Diocese of Portsmouth as Professional Adviser to the Episcopal Vicar for Education and work as a diocesan Schools Commissioner.

It’s going to be a big change but an exciting opportunity to continue to build up the Gospel of Life and the Family as creatively as possible. Please say a prayer for me. !

Godparents or godparents?


Friday  October 14 2016

I have often wondered time again which is the better way to describe [as well as being grammatically correct] this essential role in the transmission of the Faith within the family.  Interestingly this FAQ website about “godparents” uses both terms: and it uses “Godparent” in the section to describe what is expected of one within the Roman Catholic Church and customs around infant and adult baptism.

I don’t much go in for these ‘quick info’ sites but to be fair I think the opening statement is making a pretty accurate assessment of where we are with it in regard to a custom in the Church:

“Traditionally, godparents were responsible for ensuring a child’s religious education and had the duty of looking after them if they were orphaned. Today it has come to mean an individual who is chosen by the parents to take a well-meaning interest in the overall development of their child.”

 As far as I am concerned, being a godfather to no less than 2 boys and 3 girls [thus far] and soon to be a sponsor/godfather again at the confirmation of an 18 year old daughter of my wife’s cousin places upon me spiritual /pastoral burdens I probably don’t carry too well and most certainly don’t reflect on enough.

Madeleine Teahan [now married herself so forgive the maiden name for now] of the Catholic Herald wrote about this recently [23rd September] in the magazine and one of the useful suggestions she makes that godparents can do is to try to remember the anniversary of the Baptism of the godchild and make that the special day to send them a card [preferably a prayer card or item of devotion etc.] rather than just bunging them a few pounds willy nilly when the birthday comes round – oh and of course to keep them continually in your prayers not least asking their guardian angels to watch over them and guard them.

OK so that’s covering some of the spiritual stuff…but what about the pastoral stuff? Well I think I‘ve done my fair share of mentoring and encouraging of the older godchildren I have and I’ve tried to be there for them best I could when they needed help, materially or otherwise but as I think about the younger ones I have to consider [2 girls age 12 and 2] I am now beginning to wonder if, how and when I can be there more for the parents as they accompany their children on the journey of faith.

Not an easy one as [like grandparents] it’s difficult to know when and how to intervene [gently] and or make suggestions about their child’s spiritual/moral development.  So I’ll be pondering this one big time as I prepare myself to be a godfather at the confirmation of my 18 year old “niece” (she prefers to call me ‘Uncle Edmund’ even though technically I’m not) so that I’m a little more mindful and intentional according to the needs of the particular godson or goddaughter, of when to be the “Godparent” or the “godparent” whilst never actually separating the two – if you know what I mean!

Incidentally, one of my [now] grown-up and married goddaughters is about to emigrate to Australia, so I guess I will need to ramp up my frequency to intercede for her [lighting a candle, a decade of the Rosary] her being so far away physically but always close by spiritually in the Mystical Body of Christ, just like all our godchildren are both living and dead.

-Edmund Adamus         



New horizons!

Friday 7 October 2016

In his great essay,
Conscience, Consensus, and the Development of Doctrine, Blessed John Henry Newman wrote;

“To live is to change, and to change often is to become more perfect.”

Changes in life are sometimes small and sometimes big but if they are generally for the better then in Providence they are going to be specifically good for the soul and therefore another step in the right direction of our efforts to respond to the call to holiness.
So I wish to let all my readers know that by the end of this month I shall be moving on from my current post as Director for Marriage and Family Life for Westminster Diocese. It’s been an incredible 13 years and like all of us when we look back its hard to know just how quickly the time has gone! I feel sure this is going to be good for my soul as I’ve done a lot of soul searching over the decision.
Please pray for me and my family (my wife and I celebrate our 11th anniversary this weekend) as we face this huge transition together. God has granted me an opportunity to embrace a new set of challenges and encounters to serve the proclamation of the Gospel in a whole new context and environment which I will share in future posts but for now…..say one for me!
Ps. I always try to make these posts practical in some way for living out family life so despite my personal news here below is a link to a great piece about a new book for parents on how and when to talk to your children about sex and sexuality…


The Little Way is the best way

September 30 2016

It was this time last year, as the second synod on the family was about to get underway and would be closed with the first ever canonisation of a married couple (namely Louis and Zelie Martin, the parents of the even more renowned St.Therese of Lisieux or Little Flower) that much comment was made about the holiness of the married state.  That despite their outstanding heroic virtue and personal sanctity, nevertheless, the raising to the altars of St. Therese’s parents reminded us that;

  1. Ordinary everyday faithful married life and love witnessed to by redeemed sinners is a sure path to heaven and entry into the eternal wedding feast with Jesus the Bridegroom. It is not some kind of ‘second class’ status or sacrament in the Church as was often falsely perceived.
  1. That because of the indisputable heroic virtue of their children, not least Therese, the canonisation of Louis and Zelie also reminds us of the duty, responsibility and absolute right of parents to be the primary educators of their children and the first and best educators of them in the ways of faith. Perhaps Ss. Louis and Zelie could become the patron saints of the dogma of the primary educator in these times where it is so much under constant attack and threat.

And because their daughter’s globally recognised spirituality of the “Little Way” (i.e. depending on how you pick a pin up from the floor, it’s possible to release a soul from purgatory and send it on its way to heaven) essentially came from the visible daily witness of her parents which she saw from a very young age….. then we too must remember that sainthood is not some way off,  lofty, well-beyond-our-reach status; but in fact something we can and do begin building little by little, unfulfilled promise after unfulfilled promise, broken but repented of vow after broken but repented of vow all throughout our lives.

Yes we have to and must believe this, that despite our sins, our betrayals, both administered on others by us and ones we suffer, we are nevertheless [with one foot pointing to heaven and the other on a banana skin] slowly but surely…. getting there. It may not feel like it, but the essential thing is to never, ever completely give up on prayer and hope and especially the sacrament of penance and reconciliation.  Just keep going no matter what happens…..   and if you don’t believe me, here’s a gem of wisdom from a wise and holy priest in America I know of who captures it all better than I.

“St. Therese’s Little Way is often a little way of darkness.  It’s about putting up with ourselves and not getting discouraged because we confess the same sins over and over.  As Pope Francis says: “The Lord never tires of forgiving!” To live the Little Way is to do 3 things: 1) Recognize our brokenness, 2) Keep trying to grow in holiness, and 3) Keep trusting that God will satisfy our desires for holiness, even if we don’t understand how.  If we truly live this Little Way, we will become saints.”

Fr. Michael Gaitley, MIC

So as we begin the Month of the Most Holy Rosary tomorrow…let us bring this day by day, bit by bit, little by little mentality to the recitation of the Rosary in our lives.  No lover ever truly gets tired of hearing the words “I love you” from their beloved.  Likewise, Our Lady, our Mother of Mercy, never ever tires of hearing us recite over and over and over again, “Ave Maria” – “Hail Mary, the Lord is with thee…..”


-Edmund Adamus






Models of Holiness

September 23 2016

This week I’ve been thinking of how I can help my 7 year old boy [who is now preparing for his first confession in the Sacrament of Reconciliation in Advent and First Holy Communion next year] explore his school religious education theme of seeing the “home” – our family, but also our extended family – as the environment where he is learning to know and appreciate human love as the expression of God’s divine love in his life.

The school have suggested we try and put a collage together of family photos and mementos that illustrates all the loving and life-giving relationships in his life that are helping to shape and form him in to a young disciple of Christ and be sustained in that journey. And it struck me that when we walk into a Catholic church or Eastern Orthodox church we see the beautiful images, statues, icons etc. of Christ, the Blessed Virgin, St. Joseph and a whole plethora of countless Saints and angels depicted to inspire us to pray, lift our minds and hearts to God in worship and praise, as well as remind us of the journey to heaven which we are all called to undertake and destined to aim for each and every day.

From time to time, an individual Saint stands out for us and to whom we feel deeply drawn in our personal sentiments and they become for us a ‘patron’ – a friend- in the heavenly realm who is hopefully ‘putting in a good word’ for us where we will one day hope to join them.

Family photo albums are like the amalgam of statues, icons and sacred images adorning our churches and places of worship too. Think of all those deceased and living family members we have so deeply loved and been loved by in the past and those for whom we have immeasurable love for in the here and now; those we see every day and those perhaps only from time to time [but for all we might moan and groan about sometimes] nevertheless, we couldn’t imagine life without them.

All of them [like the saints in heaven] have in some small way brought God’s love in to our lives and hopefully we have reflected it back to them to. As St. Paul says in his letter to the Thessalonians; “The life and death of each of us has its influence over others.” So when it comes to our influence over others in our family and relations and friends –like the saints- we have to simply try our best to be a positive and wholesome influence.

When I talk to my son over the next few weeks about the centrality of the family and his home life in his relationship with God it will be in the context of helping him see that all those whom he knows and loves intimately now, like the saints we adore in our churches, are all on the path to heaven and the sacraments he is preparing to receive are indispensable means to help him get there.

Like St. John Chrysostom so beautifully put it when describing children as ‘statues for God.’

“To each of you fathers and mothers I say, just as we see artists fashioning their paintings and statues with great precision, so we must care for these wondrous statues of ours. Painters, when they have set the canvas on the easel, paint on it day by day to accomplish their purpose. Sculptors, too, working in marble, proceed in a similar manner; they remove what is superfluous and add what is lacking. Even so you must proceed. Like the creators of statues, give all your leisure to fashioning these wondrous statues for God.”

Regard the soul of a child like a city which must be governed wisely, he would say; and he likened the five senses to five gates to the city which parents must guard so that nothing evil or harmful enters the city.

-Edmund Adamus

Being Merciful

September 16 2016

Over the holidays I read the excellent book by Dawn Eden: “Remembering God’s Mercy. Redeem the Past and Free Yourself from Painful Memories”.

I highly recommend this little book (it’s not a lengthy tome!) because it’s well worth reading before the Jubilee Year of Mercy has run its course on the Solemnity of Christ the King in November.

Dawn is a dear friend of mine and I’ve had the joy and privilege of collaborating with her on several occasions since we first met at a Theology of the Body conference in Dublin over 10 years ago. And she has twice been a guest speaker for the annual Theology of the Body lecture I’ve hosted in Westminster diocese since 2004.

Dawn is candid about the effects of post-traumatic stress disorder she has suffered due to sexual abuse she suffered as a child. This is not a new revelation as she disclosed it in her previous books. What’s unique about this analysis is how she weaves much of the thought and teachings of Pope Francis on the subject of mercy into how she herself has experienced the deep and mystical power of healing and reconciliation over a long period of her life.

I was reminded of how much healing I need in my own life and relationships, but also just how often God has blessed my soul with what one author I once read describes as “savage grace.” That almost sounds like an oxymoron for we often only associate the concept of grace with tenderness, gentleness and peace.

Grace is often all these things, but I think what Dawn’s book reveals in a fresh way is how such qualities of grace are in fact the fruits or end result of a process rather than the beginning.

Oftentimes the Lord (being the all loving Father that He is) allows us to go through a painful process of inner purification and humbling experiences precisely because, if we didn’t, the graces we so earnestly desire and need would not take root in us in such a way so that we in turn, by “Remembering God’s Mercy” towards us, are better able to be eager channels of it for others, especially those who have hurt us in the past; which if were honest can often be close family members.

There’s one final little twist in Dawn’s story towards the end of the book which for me sums up how God’s mercy really is working and at work in our lives at every stage ….often at the darkest of moments and when we might imagine we are as far away from God as we can possibly be, just as Dawn was at the age at which (without realising it) the Holy Spirit was gifting His presence to her through a piece of music. Only much later in her life did she understand its powerful significance for the whole of her life.

I’m delighted that Dawn will now be teaching seminarians as a Doctor of Theology. She is truly a great gift to the Church in these times.

Read the book.


-Edmund Adamus

Raised to Love

September 9 2016

When parents of a newborn baby set out on the big scary adventure of tackling the myriad of challenges in caring for their baby, there’s no shortage of advice from family and friends to help them on their way.

But what about later, when it’s the really important stuff that parents need help with – like building character and teaching virtue? Well how about

It’s a website specialising in Parenting Snapshots; one-minute videos and handy hints on a particular topic. They make a big thing (like teaching resilience) seem less scary by transforming it into something achievable through practical pointers.

The videos are great because they are simple:  showing an everyday couple talking about the way they teach a particular lesson to their children. That alone is wonderful – it reinforces the (sometimes forgotten) fact that bringing up children works so much better, and successfully, when both parents are on the same page. That said, after spending ten days of the holidays looking after my own single-handedly, I now view the courage and endurance of lone parents in a fresh perspective.

Do check out the site and the videos as they also bring the lessons to life instead of making it seem like a nice idea in theory, but impossible in reality.

Finally, a reminder of two Smart Loving Breakthrough workshops coming up this autumn.

The workshops will be delivered in Welwyn Garden City at Our Lady Queen of Apostles Church on 24th September and in Brook Green Holy Trinity Church on the 15th October.


-Edmund Adamus


Summer Reading!

August 19 2016

By the time you see this I will be on my annual leave (Deo volente) enjoying a much needed and I hope well-earned rest. I guess like many busy people [especially those with young children] the summer holiday, is among the rare chances to not just slow down and get some refreshment for body, soul, mind and spirit, but to do so, aided by some edifying books to read. I love books, but I must confess to allowing my good habit to read good books all year round to have slipped because of a disproportionate amount of time and attention I give to the i-phone and emails etc. Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea máxima culpa.
So for the next 3 Fridays, you won’t be hearing from me. Not least because one of the books I have been itching to read on my shelf is the sequel to the bestseller Fr. Elijah –An Apocalypse by Michael O’Brien, entitled: Elijah in Jerusalem
I absolutely love Michael O’Brien’s books. They are the epitome of classical Catholic literature, great novels, page-turning and gripping reads. But more than just being “entertaining” reads that edify the mind and heart; they are in fact works of rich mystical and theological/spiritual insight with the union of God and souls seen through the prism and lens of the eternal truths of the family.
So if you’ve never heard of or read O’Brien’s books, I urge you to start taking them up, especially the Fr. Elijah trilogy; Sophia House; Fr.Elijah –An Apocalypse and now, after a period of twenty years, the final part, Elijah in Jerusalem – a story of how one utterly faithful Catholic priest [secretly ordained bishop by the pope in pectore as the saying goes] is charged to confront the world’s most popular politician as the prophesied “Man of Sin” – the Anti-Christ.
All of that may sound like a very heavy and foreboding storyline for a restful summer read but here’s the thing. If your life is anything like the frenetic pace of mine with the hustle and bustle of family, home, work and travel day in day out, with a few respite breathers around the solemnities of the Lord’s birth at Christmas and His dying and rising at Easter, then where and when would you possibly get the time to make a retreat?
I haven’t been able to make a full week-long retreat since 2001! Well, maybe that’s your own fault Edmund I can imagine some readers might say – and yes before the children came along I can hold my hand up and admit I ought to have tried much harder at going on retreat – [though my wife and I have been on weekend retreats a couple of times over the last 10 years]. Anyway, my point is that in the absence of making a retreat, a second best option is good spiritual reading on a regular basis and, if for some reason that’s not possible or difficult to do, then a third best option I would suggest is ensuring you undertake to absorb a thoroughly good book whilst on holiday, even if it is last thing at night. Hence my recommendation of the Michael O’Brien books, especially the trilogy above.
He sums up the reason why in the preface of his latest offering Elijah in Jerusalem; ‘It is my concern that readers…do not bring away from these stories any thought that they have been given a neo-gnostic key to the Apocalypse – in other words, a hermeneutic for survival. It is my earnest desire that they return to daily life with refreshed eyes and hunger for the living word of God in sacred Scripture. And that we might cry out with renewed fervour, with the entire Church: “Come Lord Jesus!”
I was privileged to meet Michael in the summer of 1990 whilst on holiday in Canada and I drove up state Ontario to Combemere where he lives to join a priest friend of mine who was leading a retreat in the locality.
I will always be grateful for that introduction, not just because I have found his work over 25 years to have inspired and edified me as a Christian but because the person I met that day was a man of profound humility and towering wisdom – indeed I would argue an infused knowledge – akin to all great saints, or if you prefer souls of tangible sanctity. And as a loving husband and father [which I make pitiful attempts at being], he inspired me then as his sublime example and witness to Christ inspires and humbles [even shames me] today. He is a true friend in the Lord – albeit virtually and 3000+ miles away from me.
May your summer be blessed and peaceful in Christ.
“Life on earth is not an ultimate reality; it is the penultimate reality. It is entrusted to us to be preserved with a sense of responsibility and brought to perfection in love and in the gift of ourselves to God and to our brothers and sisters.” St. John Paul II

-Edmund Adamus

Making Assumptions

August 12 2016

We make all sorts of assumptions every day. Some are trivial, others are potentially devastating. I think if we’re honest a great many of them are faulty. So why do we do this? I think that it’s part of human nature to base our understanding of other people and the world, not just on the facts we observe, but to a greater or lesser extent on what what’s going on inside us, psychologically.

Instead of basing our understanding of people and events on what we observe and what we know for a fact, we often prefer to make judgments based on our emotions, beliefs, expectations and wishes. We can all too easily confuse these psychological mechanisms with reality, and the assumptions that spring from them become the basis of our own version of “reality,” even though it’s not actually real. This is why the great pope and now saint of the family – John Paul II, as the philosopher Karol Wojtila, was so immersed in the philosophy and ethos of the person known as phenomenology. However, the thought of Wojtila/St. John Paul II, which I think I have weaved into all of my blogs since 2014, speaks for itself but we will save phenomenology for another occasion.
But it struck me, as we celebrate the great Solemnity of the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary into Heaven this weekend [and Monday 15th], that She is the one person who only ever acted in faith on observable facts. Her assumptions were never false or imperfect about anything or anyone because “she pondered all these things and treasured them in her heart” from the get-go and because she lived in the real world, feet firmly on the ground, but always in a constant state of praeternatural contemplation [which is how God intended our human experience to be from the beginning]. It is right and fitting that the final experience for her in this world was to be mystically ASSUMED body and soul into heaven.

So if we want to avoid making false assumptions about things and others, let’s stay close to the one whom God assumed into heaven because by imitating her we will, as St. Paul says, stand more of a chance of ‘putting on the mind of Christ.’


-Edmund Adamus

Talismanic Words

This was an ingenious phrase that a good friend reminded me of in recent days. I first came across it when I read the extremely helpful booklet: Preferential Option for the Family which you can download for free here, Option for the Family.

It’s a gem of a book which has been described thus:

“A handbook of 100 questions and answers explaining the Church’s doctrine on marriage and the family.. With the aim of clearing up confusion ahead of the October Synod of Bishops on the Family.” This booklet authored by — Archbishop Aldo de Cillo Pagotto of Paraíba, Brazil, Bishop Robert Vasa of Santa Rosa, California and Bishop Athanasius Schneider, auxiliary of Astana, Kazakhstan — is described as a “vademecum [handbook] on the family.”

“Vade mecum” literally means ‘go with me.’ The idea being that you want the reader to explore a very important point or issue in more detail but not in an overly lengthy way. Occasionally the Holy See issues vademecums (one might call them clarifications if you like) by way of a little ‘tonic’ as it were, or ‘tiramisu’ [a pick-me-up] for the spiritual and pastoral life of Faithful. The last official vademecum [so far as I am aware] was the 1997 “Vademecum for Confessors Concerning Some Aspects of the Morality of the Conjugal Life” from the Pontifical Council for the Family. I explained what I think are the most significant aspects of this document in a letter which was published in the London Catholic Herald in April this year:

‘[It] is absolutely correct to state that perhaps a pastoral solution to difficulties in marriage might be to prepare priests for the confessional better. This was explored in great detail and with much precision in the vademecum of 1997. With its 20th anniversary coming up next February, we should revisit this document, in the light of Amoris Laetitia, especially paragraphs 9 and 10:

“9. The pastoral ‘law of gradualness’, not to be confused with the ‘gradualness of the law’ which would tend to diminish the demands it places on us, consists of requiring a decisive break with sin together with a progressive path towards total union with the will of God and with his loving demands.

“10. On the other hand, to presume to make one’s own weakness the criterion of moral truth is unacceptable.” Striking the balance on the first so that an individual receiving guidance realises the full import of the second is more important than ever for the integrity of matrimony. Or as Benedict XVI so wisely put it in his address to the Congress for the Diocese of Rome in 2005: “The educational relationship is, by its very nature, something delicate: it implies the other’s freedom who, even with gentleness, is forced to make a decision.” Amoris Laetitia ought not to be misinterpreted to dispense with this approach to pastoral care.’

My point is that what a vademecum should do is clarify important points, clear up confusion concerning crucial questions. After all we all need to do this from time to time don’t we? Being clear about what we mean and meaning what we say and ensuring that others clearly understand what it is we communicate, is the “currency” if you like of maintaining good harmonious relationships, whether that’s at work or home or among relations and friends etc.

As Blessed Pope Paul VI so eloquently put it in his first encyclical Ecclesiam Suam:

“Clarity demands that what is said should be intelligible. We can think of it as a kind of thought transfusion […] all of us who feel the spur of the apostolate should examine closely the kind of speech we use. Is it easy to understand? Can it be grasped by ordinary people? Is it current idiom?” n81

And he reinforces the need for clarity by saying how the virtue of prudence is essential for fruitful dialogue;

“…the prudence of a teacher who is most careful to make allowances for the psychological and moral circumstances of his hearer, [Mt.6:7]  particularly if he is a child, unprepared, suspicious or hostile […] is always at pains to learn the sensitivities of his audience, and […] adapts himself […] to the susceptibilities and the degree of intelligence of his hearers”

So words, and how we use them are important and the language of authentic loving as Christ loves is especially important. “Let your no mean no and your yes mean yes,” as Jesus says. So when we witness a talismanic use of words, we should be vigilant as to the intent behind the one using them. Why? Because, according to the dictionary, a talisman is an object, typically an inscribed ring or stone, that is thought to have magic powers and to bring good luck. Now luck, chance, confusion and constant indecision is not of God but from an altogether different source; some might legitimately argue – the Father of Lies, instead of the Prince of Peace.  And we must all be on our guard against it especially in our most important relationships.

As the authors of the Preferential Option for the Family put it on page 50:

‘A “talismanic word”, while legitimate in itself, carries strong emotional content, and as such is perceived as being entirely flexible and changeable, assuming different meanings depending on the context in which it is used. This elasticity makes it susceptible to being used for propaganda purposes and abused for ideological ends.

For example, a talismanic word is a useful tool to create an “unperceived ideological transhipment,” i.e., a process that changes a target person’s mindset without his realising it, moving him from a legitimate to an illegitimate position. Manipulated by propaganda, the talismanic word gradually assumes meanings ever closer to the ideological positions to which the target persons are being led. 

This process can be easily applied also to the Church community. In fact, the use of certain words and not others can push the faithful to replace a moral judgement with a sentimental one or a substantial judgement with a formal one, coming to regard as good, or at least tolerable, what at first was considered bad.’

-Edmund Adamus